Nanowrimo

November is National Novel Writing Month, thus, Nanowrimo. Nanowrimo is all the reason or temptation anybody needs who has been making excuses about why they don’t write. I write non-fiction rather than fiction, but I’m using Nanowrimo to motivate me to write a book during the month of November. Wish me well.

This past weekend, I went to a writers’ conference and was alternately motivated and discouraged by conversations, workshops and meetings with agents, editors and other authors. Since I retired about a year and a half ago, I have been a part of two writers’ groups in Columbia (they are all over South Carolina). Here is the link to South Carolina Writers’ Workshop:

http://myscww.org

The groups usually meet twice each month where they read and critique one another’s writing. I love it. Good and interesting people. I like having a deadline. During the discussion, I figure out what I’m good at. I also learn the weaknesses of my compositions. My tastes are eclectic. I can write about baseball one week and the Civil Rights Era the next. As you can tell from my blog, I may write about addiction, then yoga, then a favorite vacation spot. Books, however, don’t get written by jumping from one interest to another.

So, during November, I intend to invest a lot of hours and energy into writing a book. For my purposes, that will be about six to ten pages each day. Wow. That’s intimidating. Wish me luck. Pray for me. I won’t be posting my blog until the month is over, so, you’ll hear from me next in December.

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The Past: A Different World (Guest Blog by My Favorite Romance Writer–Elizabeth Boyce)

I read exactly one romance writer–Elizabeth Boyce.  Elizabeth is a great writer and her topic is Romance, not my usual genre.  But remember the subtitle of this blog:  Exploring Worlds I Know Little About…”  Elizabeth Boyce is, I repeat myself, a very fine writer–and a good human being.  She has a new book coming out on October 27–today!  Enjoy her blog, then buy and enjoy her book.  Marion Aldridge

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The Past: A Different World
by: Elizabeth Boyce

First of all, a big thank you to my friend Marion for inviting me to write a guest post for his blog. It’s lovely to be here!

When I was thinking about what to write, I was inspired by the subtitle of Marion’s blog: Exploring Worlds I Know Little About. In many ways, that’s exactly what I do as an author of historical romance.

The past is a world we know little about. Consider what you learned in your history classes. Big events, like wars and elections; notable social or technological advances, such as Hammurabi’s Code, or Gutenberg’s printing press, are covered. The nitty-gritty of living day-to-day in any given time period is often overlooked. There just isn’t room in the curriculum to delve into every aspect of a given historical era—much less every aspect of every historical era.

Where do you live? Not just your country, city, or state. Consider the land on which your home or workplace sits. What was there before the current building? Who was there? What were their names? How did they live, work, and die? What did they do for entertainment? To whom did they turn when they were sick? What foods did they eat, and what hardships did they endure? Now, who were the people there before them? Once you start thinking in terms of history, you’ll discover unexplored worlds right under your feet.

You see, every life, every era, is a world I know little about. I focus my writing on the Regency period of British history, 1811-1820. I have spent nearly a decade intensely studying these few short years in a fairly specific location. Still, the more I learn, the more I realize my own ignorance.

If we were to be suddenly transported to the British Regency, we 21st century dwellers might get by with our English. The language spoken at that time wasn’t so very different from our own. But we cannot conceive of what it was like to actually live at that time. We women would find ourselves stripped of all rights of citizenship and property ownership. You gentlemen who were not born into the aristocracy would find yourselves struggling mightily to support yourselves, not to mention a family. The clothes we would suddenly have to wear would change how our bodies move. Our freedom of travel would be reduced to a radius of a few miles around our homes.

These are just a few of the changes we’d experience. Truly, the past is a whole other world, with customs, laws, and beliefs that are totally foreign to us. I choose to explore it, because it fascinates me. I’m fortunate to have found an audience for the tales I spin, which are always inspired and informed by my little discoveries.

My newest novel, Honor Among Thieves, delves into the Regency medical underworld to uncover the fine line that existed between criminal dealings and scientific advancement. I hope you’ll find this a compelling look into a world you know little about.

Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23314651-honor-among-thieves

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Take Me Out to the Ball Game

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During my childhood, the three great influences of my world were family, church and sports, in varying order, depending on the season and the day of the week. The first open rebellion of a lot of seventh-graders was sneaking portable radios into school so we could listen to the 1960 World Series between the Yankees and the Pirates.

Not having money for new bats and balls, we fixed what we had with electrical tape until the abused equipment could be repaired no longer. If we were alone, we hit rocks with a stick.

The boys in our community played pick-up games. We created a baseball diamond in the woods behind our house. We also played in organized leagues from about the sixth grade until high school graduation. I was a catcher.

We loved baseball cards. We played indoor games with them, hitting what amounted to a spitball with our favorite player’s card. We bent a lot of cardboard that way. We put the cards in the spokes of our bicycles to hear the noise the made. We destroyed a lot of future income that way.

No Major League team had made its way South yet, so everybody picked a random team and said they were his favorites. Always for the underdog, I pulled for the Washington Senators. I read the box scores every morning. Harmon Killebrew was my hero. Augusta had a minor league team, a Detroit Tigers affiliate, and I remember going to their games a few times.

My favorite baseball these days is the college variety. Watching the Clemson Tigers on a spring afternoon feels pretty close to heaven. I get over to a few Atlanta Braves games most years, and when I travel to a Major League city, I try to see a game, thirteen cities so far. I spent a week at Spring Training one year. I’ve been to Cooperstown twice. I’ve been to one All-Star game and to zero World Series games. That could be on my bucket list. But it’s October and I expect to be in front of the television set every night for the next few days watching San Francisco battle Kansas City.

Batter up!

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Ten Most Influential Books in My Life

You gotta be kidding me? A limit of ten? But that’s the challenge going around Facebook these days. You are supposed to create the list without overthinking it or trying to impress anybody.

More or less chronologically, here are some of the volumes that wowed me, but I cheated and there are twelve:

Man-Eaters of Kumaon by Jim Corbett

The New Testament in Modern English translated by J. B. Phillips

Black Like Me by James Howard Griffith

The Deep Blue Goodbye by John D. MacDonald

Moon and the Sixpence by Somerset Maugham

Til We Have Faces by C. S. Lewis

All the King’s Men by Robert Penn Warren

Autobiography of Malcolm X by Alex Haley

Raney by Clyde Edgerton

Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

Falling Upward by Richard Rohr

War and Peace by Leo Tolstoy

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Boundaries: Where the Pavement Ends

IMG_2891 I have a love/hate relationship with boundaries. On the plus side, they protect my family and me and all that I care about. Years ago a friend said, “Your right to swing your arm stops where my nose starts.” I like that. Some limitations make sense. If you own the property, you have the right to say No Trespassing. Why should I not conform to your instructions? You are allowed to protect what belongs to you.

On the other hand, boundaries can be unnecessarily limiting. The name of this blog is Where the Pavement Ends, meaning that the world does not stop where the street stops. Beyond the barriers that would restrict us, an endless creation jam-packed with fascinating life exists. I’m glad that explorers, scientists and philosophers pushed the limits, or life as we know it would not exist. Those who reduce their curiosity to what their parents told them was permissible when they were children are boring people.

Back and forth: Of course, a lack of boundaries can cause problems. Two types of people without boundaries are rapists and prostitutes.   The rapist says that he can have any part of someone else he wants. He literally enters another human being, attempting to merge with and claim what is not his. No boundaries. The prostitute says that anybody can have her. Again, no boundaries. No limits.

Back and forth: Too many boundaries are a problem. These people live in fear, rigid, self-restricted, which is a terrible way to live. Too few? Too many? I like the word “appropriate.” Marion Aldridge

“When you feel yourself becoming angry, resentful, or exhausted, pay attention to where you haven’t set a healthy boundary.” Crystal Andrus

“Appropriate boundaries create integrity.” Rae Shagalov

“The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.” David W. Earle

“Boundaries aren’t all bad. That’s why there are walls around mental institutions.” Peggy Noonan, Patriotic Grace: What It Is and Why We Need It Now

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My Writing Life

My Writing Life

Marion D. Aldridge

(I need to get this off my computer or I will never get any writing done.)

Write

Write

Delete

Write

Edit

Google

Correct

Re-Write

Stare out the window

Make sure paper tray is full

Write

Delete

Write

Edit

Bathroom break

Get coffee

Check Facebook status

Check retirement account on-line

Write

Start over

Write

Re-Write

Delete

Consider doing actual research

Reject the idea of actual research

Take a nap

Start a different, mindless project, such as this one

Write

Google

Write

Re-Write

Fidget

Edit

Delete

Change chairs

Write

Pray

Write

Resist temptation to turn on TV

Re-Write

The end

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At one time in my life, I believed each of these statements…

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  1. Dogs were males and cats were females.
  2. Pregnant women had eaten a watermelon seed, and the watermelon was growing inside them.
  3. Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy were real.
  4. My mom and dad were better Christians than our pastor and his wife because my mom and dad only had two kids which indicated they had had sex (whatever that meant) twice, and the pastor had four children which showed they had had sex four times.
  5. Saying the word “pregnant” was wrong. If the “condition” required a word, “expecting” was preferred.
  6. As a young entrepreneur, I thought I could sell two pieces of penny bubble gum for 3 cents. I learned I was wrong when I sat in front of our house on a busy street all day long and sold none.
  7. All Russians were bad.
  8. All Americans were good.
  9. Black people were somehow inferior to white people.
  10. You can trust people to do what they say they will do.
  11. Having an “official” forum (radio, television, pulpit or print media) suggests you must be right. People would say, “I heard it on the radio. It must be true.”
  12. North Augusta, South Carolina, was the capital of the world, and its geographical center.
  13. Schoolteachers do not curse.
  14. All families have a mother and a daddy.
  15. Powerful and important people (especially those in the church, the school, politics and the military) are good and are right and are to be respected and obeyed.
  16. People who drink alcohol are immoral, wicked people.
  17. Marriages should forever be full of romance and continuously happy. If married people argued, something was wrong with the marriage.
  18. My religious heritage provided the only right way to be in good standing with God.
  19. Foreigners or Immigrants who have difficulty with the English language are not as smart as “normal” people without accents.       (It did not occur to me, until embarrassingly late in my life, that the person who was struggling with English was at least bi-lingual—many immigrants speak or understand three or four languages—and I was the dolt with limited linguistic skills.)

(From Chapter 9 in my book, Overcoming Adolescence)

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My Favorite Religious Movies

By religious, I mean movies about faith, not necessarily Christian or so-called family values. Sometimes, the movies ask tough questions. They are not always inspirational. I have never particularly liked movies about Jesus, because, in my opinion, no movie even comes close to depicting Jesus as I understand him. I suspect the Jesus of history does not resemble the Jesus of motion pictures.

For religious movies, the bar is pretty low, but there are some classics. These are in alphabetical order, not in the order of my preference.

A Man Called Peter

  1. A Man for All Seasons
  2. Amazing Grace
  3. Ben Hur
  4. Brother Sun, Sister Moon
  5. Chariots of Fire
  6. Dead Man Walking
  7. Eat, Pray, Love
  8. Elmer Gantry
  9. Entertaining Angels
  10. Fiddler on the Roof
  11. Gandhi
  12. Going My Way
  13. Lilies of the Field
  14. Malcolm X
  15. Narnia: The Voyage of the Dawn Treader
  16. Narnia: The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe
  17. Saved
  18. Shoes of the Fisherman
  19. Song of Bernadette
  20. Soul Surfer
  21. The Bells of St. Mary’s
  22. The Chosen
  23. The Hiding Place
  24. The Mission
  25. The Nun’s Story
  26. The Passion of Joan of Arc
  27. The Robe
  28. The Scarlet and the Black

Which movies would you add to this list?

MARION D. ALDRIDGE

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Happy Birthday, Jenna

Our Daughter’s 40th Birthday!

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Take Care of Yourself

About twenty years ago, as our daughters were becoming adults, I began using a parting mantra that was new to me. Instead of a simple “Good-bye” or “I love you” or “Be good,” I began to say, “Take care of yourself.”

The transition was intentional. No one had explicitly taught me self-care. I wanted Jenna and Julie to know it was not only okay, but also it was important that they care for themselves.

Sunday school classes, when I was growing up, taught children to memorize short Bible verses. One of those was “Bear one another’s burdens,” found in Galatians 6: 2. The lesson is that we are to help one another in times of need. No one in my family or church showed us, much less asked us to memorize, Galatians 6: 5, which reads, “Bear your own burdens.”

The result is that a lot of good Christian folks became excellent at taking care of other people and not so good at taking care of themselves. Taking care of others was considered a virtue and looking out for yourself was somehow sinful, egotistical and wrong. So, some of us went to work when we were sick. We stifled our opinions and gave into the whims of others. We didn’t stand a chance against bullies. We served others and didn’t allow them to serve us. We were big on Duty. Sometimes we overfunctioned in our zeal to take care of others.

At some point, I realized that Jesus said we are to love others as we love ourselves (Matthew 22: 37-40), not more than, not less than. I am part of God’s creation. Why would I take care of the “you” part of creation and not the “me” part of creation?

So, I changed my thinking. That is allowed. Actually, it is required if we are to grow!

So, don’t feel the need to argue when I say, “Take care of yourself.” It’s good advice.

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